Kind

 A person said she is kind but attack the person who helped her before. Or attacked the people who gave her what nobody gets for free. Entering our family, we welcome her. Everybody has their fair bit of doing work but this person can make it seemed like we abused her. She cooked and eat with us and at the time I was helping. Only 2 days in a week for Form 4 and 5 I would be in extra classes. Me being 8 already helping in the shop or factory. Me being 14, already started cooking for family. I was like Form 2 or 3? From primary 6, I already helping my mum with clearing and washing the dishes while my older sister watch TV. Her hands were peeling and cannot wash. If I have known, I would have complained my hands were peeling too. It did but I did not peel it off that it bleeds. After school, I helped cook and after eat, I went to my mum’s shop or dad’s factory to help. At night, I warm up the meal and after dinner, wash the dishes and packed the rubbish. Always the one who cooked use a lot of pot despite only 1 soup. If that one not washed, just get a new one. Typical character. Somemore always use never washed. Kind is doing it til I left home and nobody knows what I have done. Preparing and cutting the vege and cooking rice. This person came and help with cooking it. I think I should have complained to everyone. This person can say she is doing a lot of cooking. In the mean time, she is hardworking but I don’t see the money from her earning to giving tuition. Rental and utilities bill are free. Tuition room rental is free too. Two person add up together already don’t know how much and also Brunei living expenses were low. My Dad would come up with most expenses and both of them dare say they provided food while complaining my Dad always buy stuffs she didn’t know how to cook. We spoke up for her, just tell my Dad she didn’t know how and she ended up using it against me. Then doesn’t want to clear up dishes used by my parents. For all these years, even the kids going to Uni, she did not spend a lot too. When needed money, always get from my Dad. We appreciated her cooking for my family despite having living in the house for free, Tuitioning for free and even have the room decorated with air conditioning. The stuffs they bought far exceed my parents who live frugally. Where were all those money she worked so hard for that we ended up being blamed for overworking her? She gave it to her own family and never complained but her stuffs are being used by my parents, make it big.

She barely paid 20% of her kid’s tuition fee. The rest were split along us. Older brother paying more by 2-3k than me and my sisters. Still it is easily 20k for 4 years. Even when I was not working, I managed to give. Same for my younger sister. Excluding the money gave to parents. Her earnings cannot be less than me since she gave more than 1 Tuition class. Where were all the money they both earned together? Working for so long without paying rental and utilities. Yet, not even saving enough for kid’s education. Lie and lie.

RM200k loan for the house under their name extended because my dad needed to spend the money for his courtcase so did not pay the monthly installment. The house was paid for by my Dad previously but house and loan both in my brother’s name. Then she can make it like it was a big thing. Can just sell it and the RM200k no need to pay already plus they get some money back as it was already half paid. The rental they collected too by renting out the house but they make it seem like my Dad took the money. Some more she already has half a house that she paid for.

The shophouse in Serambangun also given to them. They said wanted to move out and can rent a room. In the end, never did so and still depended on Dad. The shophouse also fully paid. Probably from my other brother cause all these while he has been giving money in large sum. Never get any cents back. Even the niece and nephew’s Tuition fee, he provided. Then when getting credits, the most filial son stayed by his side. Got daughter in law to cook but as a living atm. Only cooked 3 meals get everything she wants and act like everybody should listen to them. Not like how pitiful she sounded earlier on. Just to get things from us probably. My parents already prepared to give him the house somemore. All we heard is them badmouthing both parents. Some more, the properties were meant for them. They cooked also mainly for their kids too. My brother himself said not give to them give to who since all have no kids. When use our money never said anything. 

They were never in debt. The person who is really in trouble is my Dad and Mum. In addition to all others who were sick or not, working or not, still helped them. If she can do to me, not far from what she can do to them when they become useless. Now trying to sell the house and to get another house. The so called “innocent” daughter in law was actually more wicked. Do things without letting her hands get dirty. Everybody else like free slavery for her. Even if she does another 10 years, still cannot make up for the times she used our family. From what I heard from her brother and her mum (RIP), it seemed she has been painting our family black all these while. Also while receiving our help. While she was having her second child, she still went for a diploma course using our family car. We let her use what’s ours as if it was hers. She is not always there to cook all the time. Teaching at Seria or whatever. There were times we were more busy than her. All treated her better than our own parents. Sometimes I think back how ridiculous it was. Did she get me to Uni? Did she give me a house to stay? Did she pay for my rentals? My parents worked 50 years and with the house letting them use and everything but their minds were all money. They were glad to be near their grandkids but to treat them as if they were the one causing her to overwork? That is playing cheat. Trying to put them being responsible and guilt tripping them. That is not filial. She is trying to put her wrong doings to me. They cooked also never clear the trash or washed the plates while I was there. The bowl after they brought to Keriam for her husband also brought back unwashed. The sieve for filtering out the food waste also never washed. I am not sure who washed it after I left. I thought it was her doing them but in the end, I found out my Dad or Mum is doing them. All the stories told by them about my parents now seems vague… Sometimes I trusted them more than my parents and thinking back, how foolish of me. Probably my decision affected by my younger brother… However, the poorest was the parents who tried to play the heroes and never said anything. He tried to give everything but he gets what? These accusations??? Our fault? so now what we need to give all the money to you? because you have been cooking? but the reason they moved in was because they can take care of parents. Now flipping stories??? Why so many people cannot take care of two? My Dad still working. My Mum still working and also she has been helping my Dad with laundry and later on showering him. My mum herself was an elderly. While my Mum still working, her own mum was busy chasing tv series. Says what? Did her mum provided her accommodation in Brunei? The place she used for Tuition? The utilities bill? The car bill? Now sounds like she gave some kindness to my Mum when she needed things. It is like a charity but not considering it as giving back. Remember I was there. I saw everything just as much. From now on, these family are not related to me. They do not know what is wrong but I know. Our family did our part and you did yours. If you keep on putting us owing you, then you are ungrateful. Our money should be given to our parents and not you. Your 3 meals were really 3 meals but that is what you and your family should be giving to them. Since no money given to them but the house and everything was provided for by my parents. We owe our parents but never you. Sometimes I know the money we gave our parents will still get to your family but at least we gave our parents the right so you know how hard it is that we have saved. 

Those money you spent, remember we used to save up. We lived frugally. You don’t have to but you also don’t have to put us in a bad light while all these while we treated you as a family. You on the other hand, saying differently. May God be our judge. If any curse or witchcraft or whatever else done to us, may it all return to the owner of these things. The Lord is our shepherd and O shall follow him. The Lord is almighty and He shall break all other idolatry in this house and in this family. 

You all can do what you like. I do the same and make it more like how you did it. Normally I am quite forgiving and I don’t return an eye for an eye but I see you have not stopped when I have helped, then I shall do it like you. Keep on using what you did wrong to pick on you. Trying to fit what I did to your stories too?? that’s a low. Not really innocent.